What is love? Is it the only food for a good relationship? My answer would be no. There are lot more which goes in along with love to make a relationship worth. I believe it’s an investment from both the parties. Both of them needs to mutually respect each other, they need to compromise on certain situations, sacrifice for and understand each other, should have the willingness to work at it and stand by each other when times get rough. A real relationship is when we sail through together in any kind of situation, be it the bright day or the dark ones, when we encourage our partners to become the best version of themselves, but also love and accept them as they are. We all know that nothing in life comes for free and relationships are no different. Just like our profession, where we get paid for the good work we have done the whole month or fired if you don’t work or generate profit. Similarly, in a relationship both the partners involved will have to work towards making it happy and beautiful to cherish it for lifetime. When two persons come together with complete different characteristics, little will they know whether they are going to be together or will walk apart. It is their effort and understanding which will give birth to a beautiful relationship and to maintain that beauty, will be in their hands.
When I look around at my parents, grandparents, or other couples who have been together for decades, I am often surprised by how different they are from each other. Different yet alike. None of them will tell you that they have been married for 30+ years. None of them will tell you that they are free from fights, disagreements, or conflicts. “None of them will tell you that they will stay together forever because, hey, of course they have been doing that. None of them will tell you that they pledged their life to the other because being with them is sunshine and rainbows every single day…by an unknown writer.
But, that’s the thing about love. When you really love someone, it’s not a matter of convenience. It’s not only something you feel when times are good, it is the very foundation of staying together when times are not as good. When they are bad. When life is tough. That’s when you pull those you love closer, not push them away. It’s the cornerstone of your willingness to fix something you might feel is broken instead of just throwing it away.
You are committing to their very being. To the idea that the two of you are the consistent center and your circumstances simply orbit around you. You do not commit to someone because things are perfect, you commit to them in spite of the fact that they’re not.
Commitment is not just an arbitrary word to be found in the dictionary. It is not just a statement of temporary monogamy. It is a pledge, a vow, a way of living that embodies honor and integrity. Commitment is not a rule, or a regulation — it is an action. Commitment is not the act of losing your freedom; but exercising it to choose who you want to give your most valuable gifts to: “Your time, your emotions, and your heart.”